So I used to never talk to my dad about "boy stuff" until my freshmen year of college and ever since that door was opened he continually asks about my love life. It still feels slightly odd to talk about boys with him because growing up we never did that. But it's fun having a dad's input. My dad finds it so odd that nowadays guys aren't asking girls out on actual dates. I told him how today its either people going to parties and just hooking up or relationships develop out of hanging out in groups or developing some kind of friendship then getting into a relationship. At least at our age, I think after college people tend to go out on dates more. He gets it but still thinks it's odd cause he remembers a time when a guy would go after a girl with clear intentions. No dilly dallying. Ha. I have mixed feelings about the dating world, part of me doesn't like the idea because of the inevitable awkward situations, but then again it would make mixed signals disappear. With friendships/acquaintances there's this whole "game" of what do certain signals mean, hidden messages, and uncertainty. The whole "He's Just Not That Into You" scenario. Gosh freshmen year of college I was asked out left and right and would always be so picky and not really give guys a chance, then when I did agree to a date I was inexperienced and naive leading to me getting in way over my head. But you definitely learn.
My dad is so funny. When I'm with someone he's very critical and protective but when I'm not with somebody he tries to encourage me to give guys a shot by being open to going on dates or setting me up with guys and planning my next relationship for me. haha. And he tells me what kinda guy he thinks I need to be with. He believes you should be with someone who appreciates your interests/passions but has different passions than you. That you shouldn't go for someone in the same "pool" as you. So is the statement that opposites attract true? I don't know if it stands true when considering extremes, but now I'm starting to see the truth in it. In my dad's opinion he would put me with a "guy's guy" who's very smart, witty, and a high powered business man or doctor. I'm not necessarily looking for that exact fit, because that would be a stretch from what I lean towards- the passionate, artsy, funny, and sensitive type. It's important to have similarities in interests and personality traits, but there needs to be a balance of opposite interests/personality traits so that those two people compliment each other.
Well done daddy with the "boy talk".
